When it came to this point, the visitor added, "Of course, I'm still practicing this part, and I'm not sure if it's right or wrong. But for now, I feel much better."

This part was the visitor's adjustment in their social aspects.

As the visitor mentioned, the pros and cons of this set of social principles still need some time to be assessed.

But it is indeed more scientific than before.

Nan Zhubin nodded and continued to give a piece of [Support]: "It seems like you've indeed gained a lot during this period."

From this segment of the visitor's narration, it seems they have indeed completed the second stage of healing.

The counseling can now transition into the third stage—focusing on the visitor's [Avoidant Attachment Style].

Of course, the premise is that the issue the visitor voluntarily wants to discuss today is indeed about the [Avoidant Attachment Style].

Let's hope no new issues arise.

After receiving affirmation from the consultant on their gains, the visitor looked relieved.

"Yes, it's these new ideas that make me feel like past issues no longer trouble me, so I want to discuss new problems with the teacher."

At this point, the visitor hesitated for a moment.

"This problem... actually a long time ago, I also sought out a school consultant to discuss it, but the suggestions from the teacher at that time made me feel... very uncomfortable, so I didn't continue consulting and never brought it up with anyone else."

Nan Zhubin slightly gathered his thoughts.

The visitor took a deep breath: "It's about my parents."

"I've mentioned to you before that they trouble me a lot, and I find it difficult to communicate with them effectively."

"In this recent court trial, the reason I was late was because I spent a long time talking with them before leaving, which delayed me."

The visitor explained further, appearing very concerned that Nan Zhubin might misunderstand him.

Nan Zhubin remained silent and gave the visitor a smile.

...

Convinced, it is indeed the [Avoidant Attachment Style] issue that the visitor is dealing with, which aligns with Nan Zhubin's third stage plan.

This makes it very convenient.

Previously, Nan Zhubin assessed that the visitor's avoidance was related to [Early Childhood Experiences].

A commonly known term, [Original Family], can replace [Early Childhood Experiences].

This is also a term that has become heavily stigmatized nowadays; ever since this term emerged, many people have attributed their own detrimental traits to their family and parents. However, after some uninformed netizens offer their support and sympathy and take a closer look, it turns out many times the problem lies with the person claiming it.

So much so that "Original Family" has become a catchphrase, transforming from a neutral term into a derogatory one.

It is treated similarly to "depression."

Adding to that the cultural background of "look for your own problems more" and "filial piety," along with "don't air the family's dirty laundry," this makes it harder for people with genuine [Original Family] problems to express their trauma.

This is also one of the reasons why Nan Zhubin places the exploration of [Original Family] in the third stage. Its impact is more profound, requiring the visitor to have a certain foundational understanding of themselves before they can continue exploring.

And this kind of longitudinal exploration of [Original Family] naturally requires the [Psychoanalytic School].

Compared to all other schools of thought, the [Psychoanalytic School] has overwhelming advantages in this regard—all of them.

When the visitor first came for consultation, Nan Zhubin employed the [Psychoanalysis] stance and used many [Confrontations] to force the visitor to face their subconscious thoughts head-on.

Today's consultation won't be so sharp.

Nan Zhubin first let the visitor continue narrating, coincidentally, the visitor was in a talkative mood today.

Seeing Nan Zhubin's smile, the visitor also felt encouraged and continued, "I feel like I've never found the right way to get along with my parents—I previously thought the way I was getting along with them was correct, but now looking back, it's not."

After all, after the fraud, the "care" from the parents nearly led the visitor to an emotional breakdown—or it already did.

If not for the advanced [grounding technique] taught by Nan Zhubin in advance, the visitor might be in a worse state now.

The visitor thought for a while, seemingly organizing accurate language.

After a while, he said, "I don't want to be too close to my parents because I feel there's a 'cost' to it."

Nan Zhubin noticed that the visitor changed the way they referred to their parents. Previously it was "mom and dad," now it's "parents."

A sense of detachment was articulated.

Nan Zhubin guided along the line of thought, "Why do you feel there's a cost to being close to your parents?"

Hiss—woo—

The visitor took a deep breath, pressed their lips tightly, and shrugged.

"It's that kind of... I think it's a common childhood experience for rural kids." The visitor said, "When I was a kid, they would often tell me... how hard their work was, and how difficult it was to fund my education. Moreover, um, what particularly valuable opportunities they gave up for me."

The visitor spoke with noticeable pauses, accompanied by frowning during the narrative, clearly displaying a bad emotional experience.

But this experience wasn't targeted at the parents in the words; rather, it was targeted at himself.

The cultural background and stigmatization began to take effect.

Nan Zhubin gave a [Support]: "It's not an experience 'all' rural kids have, nor is it an experience rural kids 'commonly' have."

Looking into the visitor's eyes, the consultant said, "For you, this experience is 'specific,' and it has indeed had a 'specific' impact on you."

The wrinkles on the visitor's face eased somewhat.

He smiled at Nan Zhubin, seemingly thankful for the understanding at this moment.

"It's just that this has put a lot of pressure on me; I've always felt that their kindness toward me is something that requires repayment."

The visitor said, "Of course, repaying them is also something I should do. A child is supposed to take care of their parents; it's a responsibility, even if they never said it, I would still do it."

"However, now, it's like... I feel like I should fulfill the responsibility of supporting them for their retirement. Making them happy and having me listen to them, communicate with them more, I'm really unwilling to do that."

Nan Zhubin nodded, "Why is that?"

The visitor blinked, "Because I... don't want to be close to them."

Ah, we've circled back.

Nan Zhubin fell into thought, there must be deeper reasons behind it.

If it were other schools of thought, they might start intervening in the present based on what the visitor had previously brought up, like correcting the visitor's attitude towards their parents.

But since it's [Psychoanalysis].

Nan Zhubin decided to dig deeper, saying, "Okay, let's close our eyes for now, and try to recall..."

Nan Zhubin lowered his voice, making it flat and calm.

"...Recalling things related to your parents, what is the first thing that comes to your mind?"

The visitor fell into contemplation.

After a while, he said, "I had a dream a few days ago."

Nan Zhubin asked, "What kind of dream?"

"...This dream, I've had it before. During middle school, especially when under a lot of pressure, I would have it. After going to college, maybe because the quality of life improved a bit, I stopped having similar dreams."

The visitor, with closed eyes, twisted a bit uneasily, giving a lengthy explanation.

The more explanation, the more difficult it would be to articulate what's about to be said.

Nan Zhubin didn't interfere, allowing the visitor to reminisce.

"This dream, yes, involved a pot."

The visitor pressed their lips, "Then, the ground was all red."

"My father kept chasing me, holding a kitchen knife in his hand."

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